Saturday, January 1, 2011

Three Questions About The Philippines For 2011

No matter how remote off the beaten path I find myself in The Philippines, just about everyone I meet or spend some time with talking about life in general, ask one or a combination of the three following questions. I'm usually asked why am I in the Philippines? How long have I been in the Philippines and why is it that I don't have a girlfriend or a wife? So, to bring the top three questions back for 2011 in hopes that others can extend their comments to the conversation, here are my understandings as what I have either personally experienced or observed, while in the Philippines.

Why is it the population census states that the ratio of women to men in the Philippines is 1:1, but boots on the ground, shows otherwise nearly everywhere you go?

Overwhelmingly, as I travel from Luzon to Mindanao and places in between, I find that there is an imbalance of more women than men. Does it have to do with that there are more women working in the cities and so they migrate for work? I don’t know for sure, but I do know that when I am in the remote areas of the Philippines, far removed from the cities, that the ratio of women to men, seems to confirm what the census states.

What is the difference between dating a “holy, holy woman” and a “non-holy, holy woman” in the Philippines?

From what I have observed and from what I have experienced from visiting and living the Philippines is that, a woman who is “holy, holy,” is someone worthy of taking to visit your parents and has an active relationship with her religious faith. Someone who is indirect about what she wants from you. A woman who is non-holy, holy, may or may not have active participation with her religious faith and you may want to think about a bit more before introducing her to your family. Someone who is more direct about what she wants from you.

Why is it so difficult to meet someone who is worthy of your time in Manila, Cebu or Davao?

You can certainly meet someone who is worthy of your time if you’re not in a hurry to form a relationship, but are patient and understanding and accepting, that it takes time to build and nourish any relationship that creates a meaningful emotional bond for each of you.

If, you would like to join the discussion about Filipina women and foreign men or pinoy, feel free to leave a comment.

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